Often as we cruise along in life, there are times when we may need to make a course correction. The correction may be minor in nature or it may be a major change in lines of a new career for example.
Regardless of the change magnitude, having those along with us who have our back so to speak and can help support us as we navigate through these times can and will be of the upmost importance.
But on a cautionary note, there will be plenty of folks who are willing to “give their two-cents” as what you should do or not do. Be wary though. Often they’re giving “advice” only in terms of hearing themselves speak.
From October 2018…..
My life is going in the wrong direction!
Finding our way or getting direction in which way to go in life or even in making a huge life decision can be challenging at best. Tackling all of this on our own presents a whole new set of issues and trials to deal with. Ever try playing a team sport all by yourself? If you’re the only person on the defensive side of the ball, it’s impossible I would think to keep the offensive team from scoring – A LOT!
That’s why they call it a team sport. A group of people supporting each other to create a positive result.
We all need people around us and those people need to be on our side.
Having a support network around you, even it if it just one person who has your back may be all you need to succeed.
If you’ve taken a day or even just a few short hours to do some hiking on the Bruce Trail in Ontario, you would see a fair bunch of these along the way. In fact, most of the trail systems we’ve been on use some version of this to indicate the direction to head in.
Every so often you can get multiple indications of where you are and which way to go. Really?……….now, that looks confusing…….?
For the most part, the Bruce Trail is pretty easy to follow, although lately with fall and the leaves coming off the trees, the trail does tend to get covered and unrecognizable.
At those times the trail indicators sure do come in handy.
Much like hiking along the Bruce Trail, don’t we all need indicators of some sort in our lives that help us to see or to tell us……………. “hey you’re headed in the right direction” or “man, the direction you’re heading right now is not good…….time for a change don’t ya think?”
Isn’t it the people in our lives that help us the most?
It might be our spouse; maybe it’s a real close lifelong friend; a brother or sister; maybe our parents who come along and help give us some direction or provide some clarity when we need it.
When we’re out along the Bruce Trail as an example and we see those symbols along the way, we can be pretty sure they’re correct and guiding us in the right direction.
Why? Because they were placed by people who know that section of the trail intimately.
We all need people who can help us; give direction when needed, or just to encourage us by telling us we’re on the right road. But, those people need to know us; where we are and where we want to go. In other words, they need to know us really well. And I mean REALLY WELL.
My experience over far too many decades is that there are scores of people who want to give us direction; all too eager to try and help us, or stop us and get us pointed in another direction.
Here’s the rub though…………problem is……………I’ve kind of felt they don’t really know what they’re talking about and they certainly don’t have my best interests at heart.
Sounds cyclical, but it’s true.
But, if you have just a one or two people who you can really trust; that know you intimately and you truly know they have YOUR best interests at the forefront….then you’re on the right track.
Finding the right direction at any time whether it be in life or in the wilderness is a rewarding challenge that can involve a considerable amount of trial and error. To stack the odds in your favour, having supportive people around you certainly ups your chances for a positive outcome.
Remember, that talk is cheap.
Focus and get support from people based on what they do, not on what they say. If they constantly go on about having your best interests at heart but are forever trying to force their opinions or their way of life on you or keep yapping on about why you can’t do what you want to do – really that is not being supportive.
That’s not what you need.
Surround yourself with people or even if it is just one person who will respect who you are, but still be there when you need them.
Just like those directional markers along the Bruce Trail, there are those times we need someone to help give us direction; to let us know we’re on the right path; maybe to help steer us to the better path.
In fact, I think you’d be in a pretty good spot, even if you had only one person.
Yup, we all just at least one person like that in our lives.
Thanks for reading.