Thoughts From The Wilderness – Family Day 2021 Style

Well, today is a statutory holiday throughout most of Canada.

Here in Ontario, as well as a few other provinces its called “Family Day.” Other provinces have different names for it, but at it’s basic level it is a day off and for many it made for a nice long weekend.

In the past(pre-COVIDpast), Family Day would have been a day filled with outdoor winter activities galore throughout most of the country. Many of the events that would have had large gatherings of people are cancelled this year.

Nevertheless, that shouldn’t detract from getting outdoors or even indoors if the weather isn’t cooperating and spend time with family.

For Lynn and I, I’m not sure what is in store for us. I did tell her in no uncertain terms yesterday, that she had better finish all her business related stuff and not spend half of today working.

Regardless, it’s a holiday to do whatever you want(for the most part). Not a work day. We have enough of those.

Moving along though, in our region starting tomorrow(February 16th), we move from Gray Zone(lockdown) to Red Zone(not sure what that entails). But, it does entail though movement in the right direction. Many businesses that were closed can now start to open up. Ski resorts and hair salons are two that come to mind. Oh, and restaurants for indoor seating with reduced capacities.

I don’t ski or snowboard now, but I do get a haircut every once and awhile. In the past 14 months, I’ve had my hair cut twice. Last time it was cut, was June 2020. Now, I can put it in a ponytail….which I have been doing.

Lynn says it looks hot.

As I told someone at work who mentioned, “they didn’t think I was a ponytail type of guy.” If Lynn says it’s hot …ponytail stays. When she says the look is not so hot anymore…..goodbye ponytail.

Not difficult to figure out.

Happy Family Day….or whatever they happen to call in your neck of the woods. Assuming that today is a holiday in your area.

— as always with love —

— get outdoors; find inspiration; discover yourself —

Thoughts From The Wilderness – A Storm Checklist For Living – Five Tips

Generally speaking, this winter has been pretty darn sweet in terms of snow accumulation and freezing temperatures. We’ve had both, but not to the extent we’ve experienced in years gone by. Now, having opened that door, we may wake up on Friday morning with 42 centimetres of snow on the ground and temperatures reaching minus 30 degrees C.

But, freaky weather does happen. Snow in the winter or hurricane force winds and rain during the summer. We know with certainty(or we should by now) that storms happen. It’s part of the circle of life, much the same as “death and taxes.”

I don’t think, there is anyone who goes through life without experiencing some sort of challenge, difficulty or storm in their own centre of the universe. We all do. Geez, it is pretty much as simple as that.

We know they’re going to show up. Often unexpected – we’ve all been there and “bought the tee-shirt.” On the other hand, there are those times, we know the “storm is brewing.” However, we end up standing there with this blank look on our faces; still flabbergasted when the storms rolls overhead and dwells 32 feet above our “pink candy-floss and merry go round” existence.

What do we do then?

Good question. Here are five tips to help “weather the storms” when the show up in our lives.

Note – these do not include buying “Storm Chips”(yes – they are a real thing) and beer and riding out the latest hurricane that is generally anticipated for eastern Canada in late August or September. This is a well-documented; tried and try approach. It is however, usually is included as part of a more conventional and practical suggestion of bottled water, extra batteries and alike. Not always though – just sayin.’

— always with love —

from a year ago……

In my area of Canada, that being north-central Ontario, we’ve been pretty blessed this winter in terms of storm blasts and bad weather. Now, having even thought that and worse, allowing such a thought to be typed out, we’ll likely wake up tomorrow morning and find three feet of heavily drifted snow on the ground.

This is what happened to Newfoundland in eastern Canada in mid-January. They thought, “Hey we’re having a pretty decent winter so far don’t ya think?” and then got this massive dumping of snow over the course of one day. Mother Nature sure has a way of balancing out the score in the end.

Be careful what your thoughts are – you may end up with exactly what you didn’t wish for or could even imagine.

A couple of weeks ago, Lynn and I happened to find ourselves in Collingwood and took a quick side-detour to Sunset Point Park on a blustery and windy afternoon.

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It was windy and cold enough to keep us in the car while in the parking lot at the park.

In no uncertain terms, Georgian Bay was having a stormy and messy time of it. Much of the surrounding trees, ground and anything that happened to be reasonably close by was covered by a thick layer of ice.

Now having said that, there are often times and even during the winter, when Georgian Bay can be calm and almost mirror-like in appearance. Other times like this day, not so much. A stormy tempest was brewing in a teapot.

But realistically none of this bad weather stuff is unexpected.

One doesn’t need to be a meteorologist to figure out it is winter in our area of the world and with that comes the potential for lots of snow over the winter months; high winds; and obviously the potential for storms of one description or another to pop up on a fairly frequent basis.

Life is exactly the same.

In as much as you pray and hope that things throughout your life sail along smoothly, much like a sunny and warm weekend afternoon, you and I both know that isn’t necessarily the case. We don’t go throughout our life from birth to death with it all “sunshine, unicorns and lollipops.”

Storms and bad weather in our lives are going to occur. Often those storms can be somewhat minor and inconvenient like a brief summer shower at a family picnic. Other times it might be like the “snow bomb” that hit Newfoundland a few weeks ago.

Regardless if they are minor or major, storms are going to arrive on your doorstep. So then, what can we do?

Five tips for “weathering storms” in life

Check the schedule

In other words, expect storms and challenges in life to show up.

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We all know this fact or at least should know that this is one of many stark realities of life – bad stuff or storms are going to happen. The ironic thing is we can often go through exceedingly long periods in our lives when things are clicking along just fine. No troubles, no storms, no strife. Life is good.

Although the “no troubles, no storms, no strife” reality of existence is a good one, it does tend to lull us into a false sense of “no troubles, no storms, no strife.” In other words, our memories or our knowledge that “bad stuff or storms are going to happen” gets sucked into some “black-hole galaxy” that all is “sunshine, unicorns and lollipops.”

If you’ve had a long stretch of “no troubles, no storms and no strife” or perhaps it’s more of “sunshine, unicorns and lollipops”, there is a huge potential that your memory at this point is failing you big time. Remember, crap happens to all of us and it may happen to you about ten minutes after reading this.

Expect storms and challenges to show up.

Take responsibility

How many of us want to run and hide under the covers when a thunderstorm is coming? When it comes to storms in our lives, we often resort to the same approach. We run and want to avoid them at all costs. Especially if the storm or difficulty was one we created all on our own.

A healthier and better approach is to develop skill(s) in taking responsibility. One problem though is that “responsibility” is often linked together with self-blame or self-pity.

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However, for our purposes here, think of “responsibility” as being able to respond to the given situation you may find yourself in. Being able to respond given the storm we find ourselves in or in this case “take responsibility of” helps to keep us out of the mud-sucking hole of self-pity, blaming others or of feeling like we’re a victim in this.

A “being able to respond to” mindset really helps to put us on a course to find effective long term answers to guide us through these challenging episodes when they occur.

Take responsibility – develop skills to respond.

We all need a friend

Ever notice on Facebook or other social media platforms, that getting “hundreds or even thousands” of friends can be pretty easy. Hell, you don’t even really have to try very hard.

I find this to be especially the case if someone posts a ton about how good things seem to be going in life. Lots of positive “gifs and memes” posted on a daily basis about life and how for you it is“sunshine, unicorns and lollipops.” Understandably it’s easy and not very hard emotionally to post the good stuff; the “clean laundry” in our life so to speak.

On the other hand, no one really wants to post the “dirty laundry” or difficult situations they may be facing. Oh, some do and mostly they get back quaint platitudes and quotes that don’t really help them but do make the person who sent them feel really good and special.

No wonder people don’t reach out when times get tough.

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Deer in the headlight moment hereyou don’t need fake FB friends or fake social media friends when storms in life hit.

What you do need is just one friend or person that you can lean on. As difficult and or hard as it might be, often leaning on a friend can be a real help in weathering whatever storm you find yourself in. When difficult times hit, often your “so-called FB friends” will scatter like cockroaches in the kitchen when the light is flicked on in. But who cares, they’re fake anyway.

Remember, often all you need is just ONE FRIEND who will ANSWER THE CALL AND STAND WITH YOU during this time.

Lean on a friend.

Welcome it

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Although it may be something we don’t want to hear, difficult challenges often end up building character and helping us to grow in ways we never thought possible.

In retrospection, isn’t it those moments of adversity that we’ve gone through and kicked the crap out of that we take pride in; learned from; and have grown from?

It may be a strange approach, but don’t shy away from storms. Successfully navigating through a storm will often show that you are far more capable of tackling life and new challenges, more than you ever imagined.

Welcome it.

Celebrate your successes

There is a good chance that right this very moment as you’re reading this, you’ve been through a storm or difficult period in your life at some point in the past. And you made it through whatever that stormy period was.

Celebrate that success. Why?  Because you’ve handled and conquered challenges in the past, there is no reason why you can’t do the same thing again.

Even if the success wasn’t birthed out of some difficult storm you faced, celebrate it anyway.

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Our lives are made up of far more success stories that were not born out of challenges or storms, but that was just simply born. We need to continually remind ourselves(or at least I need to) that life isn’t all composed of storms and bad weather.

As individuals, we can, unfortunately, end up at some point in life, where we see the glass as only and always half empty.

The reality is the freakin’ glass is also half full. Be a “glass half full” type of soul.

Whether the success was a result of riding out some storm in life or just simply a success that fell into our laps – celebrate them all.

Celebrate your successes.

Five simple tips for weathering the storms in life.

  • Check the schedule(expect stuff to happen)
  • Take responsibility(respond to the situation – don’t run and hide)
  • We all need a friend(lean on someone to help)
  • Welcome it(storms and challenges help us to grow)
  • Celebrate(you made it through before and you’ll do it again – celebrate that)

What are some tips that you can share with others to help make it through the storms in life that we know we are going to face?

— with love always —

— get outdoors; find inspiration; discover yourself —

Thoughts From The Wilderness – How Are We/You Holding Up?

Perhaps a strange question for so very early on a Sunday morning, three-quarters of the way through the month of November.

But, on the other hand, maybe this isn’t such a strange or weird question afterall.

How are we holding up?

At any time of the year and it doesn’t need to be the holiday season, scores of people are dealing and managing with their own mental and emotional wellness issues and concerns.

For many, the emotional and mental wellness issues they deal with on a daily basis can amplify and intensify during the holiday season.

There is plenty of well-documented research illustrating the myriad of stress related issues that the holiday season can heep upon all of us.

This year, add a global pandemic into the mix and all of these issues and concerns take off to new and uncharted territories.

Speaking for myself, the past weeks have been a series of good and somewhat less than good days. Not bad days, but on the other hand – not good days either.

I’m finding that the introduction of seemingly ordinary things or events ramp up my anxiety a notch or two. For example, today the weather forecasters are calling for a winter snow storm to start in the afternoon, into the evening and taper off by early Monday morning.

The thought of having to drive home from work at 3:30pm this afternoon in snow is not appealing to me to say the least.

Normally, this wouldn’t phase me, even slightly. In fact, not long ago I would have said,“bring it on – Mother Nature!”

But, now here I sit composing a blog post in order to deal with the anxiety I’m experiencing.

Experts might start by telling me to, “cut yourself some slack.” You’ve got enough happening in your own life, along with the swirling mess that generally has engulfed most of us across the face of the planet.

Easy to say…….but a challenge to implement.

So…how are we/you doing?

Any suggestions?? Other than staying at home and avoiding the anticipated snow storm?

— get outdoors; find inspiration; discover yourself —

Thoughts From The Wilderness – A Storm Checklist For Living – Five Tips

In my area of Canada, that being north-central Ontario, we’ve been pretty blessed this winter in terms of storm blasts and bad weather. Now, having even thought that and worse, allowing such a thought to be typed out, we’ll likely wake up tomorrow morning and find three feet of heavily drifted snow on the ground.

You see, this is what happened to Newfoundland in eastern Canada in mid-January. They thought, “Hey we’re having a pretty decent winter so far don’t ya think?” and then got this massive dumping of snow over the course of one day. Mother Nature sure has a way of balancing out the score in the end.

Be careful what your thoughts are – you may end up with exactly what you didn’t wish for or could even imagine.

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A couple of weeks ago, Lynn and I happened to find ourselves in Collingwood and took a quick side-detour to Sunset Point Park on a blustery and windy afternoon.

It was windy and cold enough to keep us in the car while in the parking lot at the park.

In no uncertain terms, Georgian Bay was having a stormy and messy time of it. Much of the surrounding trees, ground and anything that happened to be reasonably close by was covered by a thick layer of ice.

Now having said that, there are often times and even during the winter, when Georgian Bay can be calm and almost mirror-like in appearance. Other times like this day, not so much. A stormy tempest was brewing in a teapot.

But realistically none of this bad weather stuff is unexpected.

One doesn’t need to be a meteorologist to figure out it is winter in our area of the world and with that comes the potential for lots of snow over the winter months; high winds; and obviously the potential for storms of one description or another to pop up on a fairly frequent basis.

Life is exactly the same.

In as much as you pray and hope that things throughout your life sail along smoothly, much like a sunny and warm weekend afternoon, you and I both know that isn’t necessarily the case. We don’t go throughout our life from birth to death with it all “sunshine, unicorns and lollipops.”

Storms and bad weather in our lives are going to occur. Often those storms can be somewhat minor and inconvenient like a brief summer shower at a family picnic. Other times it might be like the “snow bomb” that hit Newfoundland a few weeks ago.

Regardless if they are minor or major, storms are going to arrive on your doorstep. So then, what can we do?

Five tips for “weathering storms” in life

Check the schedule

In other words, expect storms and challenges in life to show up.

schedule

We all know this fact or at least should know that this is one of many stark realities of life – bad stuff or storms are going to happen. The ironic thing is we can often go through exceedingly long periods in our lives when things are clicking along just fine. No troubles, no storms, no strife. Life is good.

Although the “no troubles, no storms, no strife” reality of existence is a good one, it does tend to lull us into a false sense of “no troubles, no storms, no strife.” In other words, our memories or our knowledge that “bad stuff or storms are going to happen” gets sucked into some “black-hole galaxy” that all is “sunshine, unicorns and lollipops.”

If you’ve had a long stretch of “no troubles, no storms and no strife” or perhaps it’s more of “sunshine, unicorns and lollipops”, there is a huge potential that your memory at this point is failing you big time. Remember, crap happens to all of us and it may happen to you about ten minutes after reading this.

Expect storms and challenges to show up.

Take responsibility

How many of us want to run and hide under the covers when a thunderstorm is coming? When it comes to storms in our lives, we often resort to the same approach. We run and want to avoid them at all costs. Especially if the storm or difficulty was one we created all on our own.

A healthier and better approach is to develop skill(s) in taking responsibility. One problem though is that “responsibility” is often linked together with self-blame or self-pity.

stormlife

However, for our purposes here, think of “responsibility” as being able to respond to the given situation you may find yourself in. Being able to respond given the storm we find ourselves in or in this case “take responsibility of” helps to keep us out of the mud-sucking hole of self-pity, blaming others or of feeling like we’re a victim in this.

A “being able to respond to” mindset really helps to put us on a course to find effective long term answers to guide us through these challenging episodes when they occur.

Take responsibility.

We all need a friend

Ever notice on Facebook or other social media platforms, that getting “hundreds or even thousands” of friends can be pretty easy. Hell, you don’t even really have to try very hard.

I find this to be especially the case if one posts a ton about how good things seem to be going in life. Lots of positive “gifs and memes” posted on a daily basis about life and how for you it is“sunshine, unicorns and lollipops.” Understandably it’s easy and not very hard emotionally to post the good stuff; the “clean laundry” in our life so to speak.

On the other hand, no one really wants to post the “dirty laundry” or difficult situations they may be facing. Oh, some do and mostly they get back quaint platitudes and quotes that don’t really help them but do make the person who sent them feel really good and special.

No wonder people don’t reach out when times get tough.

friends2

But, you don’t need fake FB friends or fake social media friends when storms in life hit.

What you do need is just one friend or person that you can lean on. As difficult and or hard as it might be, often leaning on a friend can be a real help in weathering whatever storm you find yourself in. When difficult times hit, often your “so-called FB friends” will scatter like cockroaches in the kitchen when the light is flicked on in. But who cares, they’re fake anyway.

Remember, just one friend who will answer the call and stand with you during this time.

Lean on a friend.

Welcome it

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Although it may be something we don’t want to hear, difficult challenges often end up building character and helping us to grow in ways we never thought possible.

In retrospection, isn’t it those moments of adversity that we’ve gone through and kicked the crap out of that we take pride in; learned from; and have grown from?

It may be a strange approach, but don’t shy away from storms. Successfully navigating through a storm will often show that you are far more capable of tackling life and new challenges, more than you ever imagined.

Welcome it.

Celebrate your successes

There is a good chance that right this very moment as you’re reading this, you’ve been through a storm or difficult period in your life at some point in the past. And you made it through whatever that stormy period was.

Celebrate that success. Why?  Because you’ve handled and conquered challenges in the past, there is no reason why you can’t do the same thing again.

Even if the success wasn’t birthed out of some difficult storm you faced, celebrate it anyway.

glass2

Our lives are made up of far more success stories that were not born out of challenges or storms, but that was just simply born. We need to continually remind ourselves(or at least I need to) that life isn’t all composed of storms and bad weather.

As individuals, we can, unfortunately, end up at some point in life, where we see the glass as only and always half empty. The reality is the freakin’ glass is also half full.

Whether the success was a result of riding out some storm in life or just simply a success that fell into our laps – celebrate them all.

Celebrate your successes.

Five simple tips for weathering the storms in life.

  • Check the schedule(expect stuff to happen)
  • Take responsibility(respond to the situation – don’t run and hide)
  • We all need a friend(lean on someone to help)
  • Welcome it(storms and challenges help us to grow)
  • Celebrate(you made it through before and you’ll do it again – celebrate that)

What are some tips that you can share with others to help make it through the storms in life that we know we are going to face?

— get outdoors; find inspiration; discover yourself —

Thoughts From The Wilderness – Sunshine Always Follows The Rain

Here at the “old homestead,” its a dreary and rainy Sunday morning. In fact, the weather prognosticators are suggesting rain throughout most of the day. Oh well, what can a person do?

At best, perhaps the rain will subside and the sun will peek out from behind the greyness for an appearance at some point this afternoon.

With any luck, sunshine will follow the rain today. If it doesn’t however, life goes on and tomorrow is always the start to a new day.

Although originally posted back in June, it seems entirely appropriate to re-post this morning.

Sunshine always follows the rain.

Or does it really?

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The picture above is from either 2016 or 2017, taken just after a wicked storm had blown through near Orangeville, Ontario. I was on my way to meet Lynn and our daughter Sara, who had been out enjoying a Mother’s Day celebration together.

So, in this case, yes, “sunshine followed the rain.”

Obviously, the quote “sunshine always follows the rain” isn’t describing or referring to weather-related circumstances. I supposed it could, though.

Nevertheless, it’s eluding to that concept that bad times(rain) is followed by good things(sunshine).

The quote “Sunshine Always Follows The Rain” though should bring into our thought process a couple of questions?

Sunshine Always Follows The Rain

  • does it really – it may or it may not
  • does it even need to follow
  • what if we could at least tolerant or handle the rain better

Does it really? – it may or it may not

How does one define sunshine?

If “sunshine always follows the rain”, then what defines rain and more importantly, what defines sunshine?

For the sake of the discussion and time, let’s define rain as a bad or negative situation. You can define “bad or negative” in any way or style you chose.

So then, what is sunshine?

Is it 180 degrees opposite of whatever the bad situation was? Is it as simple as the next day is better than whatever was happening?

When does the sunshine need to occur? Immediately after the rain or at a point in the future? And if it happens in the future, will we even recognize the sunshine that is occurring, has followed the rain that may have happened six months ago?

Realistically, sunshine does follow the rain. It may not be a burst of brilliant sunshine that is 180 degrees opposite of whatever was happening before. It may simply be sunshine that is trying to pierce its way through the remaining rain clouds.

Does it even need to follow?

Does weather keep a tally sheet?

“Sunshine always follows the rain” suggests some weird level of a scorecard. That for every rainy situation in our lives, there needs to follow a period of sunshine. If one thing happens, then the other needs to happen to keep the score in life even.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t appear to chug along on the basis of if something negative happens that something good or positive must happen. We may want or expect “sunshine to follow the rain”, there is no guarantee it will happen.

It could happen, but it doesn’t mean it has to happen or will happen.

Our lives, for the most part, don’t operate for long at the extremes. Defining “how long” is a subjective exercise, to say the least. Our lives are not spent entirely in “the rain”, nor do we spend our time walking the earth in “sunshine.” We may find ourselves for periods in either spot, but most of the time, we operate or live somewhere in the middle.

 

If asked on the street so to speak, most people I assume would answer that, “yes, having sunshine in our lives that follows a rainy period” is a good thing.

And of course, who wouldn’t want that?

But, we often go through those rainy periods(define them however you like). The rainy part ends, but the next “day” is like one of the two pictures above. What if it is like the one on the right?

It isn’t raining, and the sun is trying to peek through the clouds. However, it also isn’t that brilliant sunshine we may have hoped for. Is the result bad,; is it good; or is it just life?

Furthermore, what defines rain?

What if we could at least tolerant or handle the rain better?

We know that the rain will come. It always does.

In fact, it may be raining right now where you’re sitting. Hopefully, it is only a slight drizzle.

However, what defines rain?

Is it one of those minor irritations in life? Or something much more significant that can occur? Is it or can it be both?

It depends on the person it is happening to, doesn’t it?

Regardless, of how it is defined, what if we could handle those rainy periods better?

 

How to effectively handle those “rainy” periods in our lives, is likely best handled or explored in another post or two or three.

But one thing that has kept rattling around in my mind about handling and dealing with difficult or troublesome issues is everything that happens with even the slightest negative scent to people – seems to be an issue.

Obviously not all, but with many people that I know, everything is an issue. And what should be considered a minor issue at BEST is now elevated to STATUS – RED ALERT or as a minimum some sort of shade of red.

All of which suggests, that for these folks, it is raining or at least drizzling all of the time.

And that can’t possibly be true – can it?

Again, a difficult question to answer in the confines of this post.

I wonder, though, if in general, we are spread so thin in our lives, that even the most minor scratch or irritation is exceedingly painful. In other words, we can be so “on edge” that we have difficulty dealing with even a tiny bit of rain in our lives.

I think that there are other reasons as well, that amplifies the “rain” space in our lives, but again, those would be better dealt with in another post.

How do we handle rain better?

There are a thousand ways to handle rain better. One way is to accept that rain is going to show up, regardless of how much we may not wish it to.

So, embrace it.

One thing Lynn and I have worked hard at doing is simplifying our life.

When our lives are so complex and busy, it usually means we’re pulled too thin. When we are pulled or wound too tight, it doesn’t take much “rain” for us to explode or implode.

I posted this piece a while ago, but I think it is relevant here in dealing with the “rainy periods” and why simplifying our lives is a good and necessary thing.

Sunshine Always Follows The Rain

Does it?

It does, but it may be peeking through the clouds or the sky may be slightly overcast. Even if it rains at night, we know that the sun rises in the morning.

But rain does come.

Learning to handle or deal with the rain in a more productive manner may make the sunshine appear far more brilliant than we think it is.

How do you handle those “rain days” in your life?

Do you expect “sunshine to follow the rain?”

Do you need “sunshine to follow the rain?”

 

Thanks for stopping by.

 

 

—  get outdoors; find inspiration; discover yourself  —

 

Thoughts From The Wilderness – Sunshine Always Follows The Rain

Or does it really?

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The picture above is from either 2016 or 2017, taken just after a wicked storm had blown through near Orangeville, Ontario. I was on my way to meet Lynn and our daughter Sara, who had been out enjoying a Mother’s Day celebration together.

So, in this case, yes, “sunshine followed the rain.”

Obviously, the quote “sunshine always follows the rain” isn’t describing or referring to weather-related circumstances. I supposed it could, though.

Nevertheless, it’s eluding to that concept that bad times(rain) is followed by good things(sunshine).

The quote “Sunshine Always Follows The Rain” though should bring into our thought process a couple of questions?

Sunshine Always Follows The Rain

  • does it really? – it may or it may not
  • does it even need to follow?
  • what if we could at least tolerant or handle the rain better?

Does it really? – it may or it may not

How does one define sunshine?

If “sunshine always follows the rain”, then what defines rain and more importantly, what defines sunshine?

For the sake of the discussion and time, let’s define rain as a bad or negative situation. You can define “bad or negative” in any way or style you chose.

So then, what is sunshine?

Is it 180 degrees opposite of whatever the bad situation was? Is it as simple as the next day is better than whatever was happening?

When does the sunshine need to occur? Immediately after the rain or at a point in the future? And if it happens in the future, will we even recognize the sunshine that is occurring, especially if it followed rain that may have happened six months ago?

Realistically, sunshine does follow the rain. It may not be a burst of brilliant sunshine that is 180 degrees opposite of whatever was happening before. It may simply be sunshine that is trying to pierce its way through the remaining rain clouds.

Does it even need to follow?

Does weather keep a tally sheet?

“Sunshine always follows the rain” suggests some weird level of a scorecard. That for every rainy situation in our lives, there needs to follow a period of sunshine. If one thing happens, then the other needs to happen to keep the score in life even.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t appear to chug along on the basis of if something negative happens that something good or positive must happen. We may want or expect “sunshine to follow the rain”, there is no guarantee it will happen.

It could happen, but it doesn’t mean it has to happen or will happen.

Our lives, for the most part, don’t operate for long at the extremes. Defining “how long” is a subjective exercise, to say the least. Our lives are not spent entirely in “the rain”, nor do we spend our time walking the earth in “sunshine.” We may find ourselves for periods in either spot, but most of the time, we operate or live somewhere in the middle.

If asked on the street so to speak, most people I assume would answer that, “yes, having sunshine in our lives that follows a rainy period” is a good thing.

And of course, who wouldn’t want that?

But, we often go through those rainy periods(define them however you like). The rainy part ends, but the next “day” is like one of the two pictures above. What if it is like the one on the right?

It isn’t raining, and the sun is trying to peek through the clouds. However, it also isn’t that brilliant sunshine we may have hoped for. Is the result bad,; is it good; or is it just life?

Furthermore, what defines rain?

What if we could at least tolerant or handle the rain better?

We know that the rain will come. It always does.

In fact, it may be raining right now where you’re sitting. Hopefully, it is only a slight drizzle.

However, what defines rain?

Is it one of those minor irritations in life? Or something much more significant that can occur? Is it or can it be both?

It depends on the person it is happening to, doesn’t it?

Regardless, of how it is defined, what if we could handle those rainy periods better?

How to effectively handle those “rainy” periods in our lives, is likely best handled or explored in another post or two or three.

But one thing that has kept rattling around in my mind about handling and dealing with difficult or troublesome issues is everything that happens with even the slightest negative scent to people – seems to be an issue.

Obviously not all, but with many people that I know, everything is an issue. And what should be considered a minor issue at BEST is now elevated to STATUS – RED ALERT or as a minimum some sort of shade of red.

All of which suggests, that for these folks, it is raining or at least drizzling all of the time.

And that can’t possibly be true – can it?

Again, a difficult question to answer in the confines of this post.

I wonder, though, if in general, we are spread so thin in our lives, that even the most minor scratch or irritation is exceedingly painful. In other words, we can be so “on edge” that we have difficulty dealing with even a tiny bit of rain in our lives.

I think that there are other reasons as well, that amplifies the “rain” space in our lives, but again, those would be better dealt with in another post.

How do we handle rain better?

There are a thousand ways to handle rain better. One way is to accept that rain is going to show up, regardless of how much we may not wish it to.

So, embrace it.

One thing Lynn and I have worked hard at doing is simplifying our life.

When our lives are so complex and busy, it usually means we’re pulled too thin. When we are pulled or wound too tight, it doesn’t take much “rain” for us to explode or implode.

I posted this piece a while ago, but I think it is relevant here in dealing with the “rainy periods” and why simplifying our lives is a good and necessary thing.

Sunshine Always Follows The Rain

Does it?

It does, but it may be peeking through the clouds or the sky may be slightly overcast. Even if it rains at night, we know that the sun rises in the morning.

But rain does come.

Learning to handle or deal with the rain in a more productive manner may make the sunshine appear far more brilliant than we think it is.

How do you handle those “rain days” in your life?

Do you expect “sunshine to follow the rain?”

Do you need “sunshine to follow the rain?”

Thanks for stopping by.

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