Thoughts From the Wilderness – Finding Your Way in Life

My life is going in the wrong direction!

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Getting Direction

Finding our way or getting direction in which way to go in life or even in making a huge life decision can be challenging at best. Tackling all of this on our own presents a whole new set of issues and trials to deal with. Ever try playing a team sport all by yourself? If you’re the only person on the defensive side of the ball, it’s impossible I would think to keep the offensive team from scoring – A LOT!

That’s why they call it a team sport. A group of people supporting each other to create a positive result.

Getting Support

We all need people around us and those people need to be on our side.

Having a support network around you, even if it just one person who has your back may be all you need to succeed.

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If you’ve taken a day or even just a few short hours to do some hiking on the Bruce Trail in Ontario, you would see a fair bunch of these along the way. In fact, most of the trail systems we’ve been on use some version of this to indicate the direction to head in.

Every so often you can get multiple indications of where you are and which way to go. Really?……….now, that looks confusing…….?

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Which way to go?

For the most part, the Bruce Trail is pretty easy to follow, although lately with fall and the leaves coming off the trees, the trail does tend to get covered and unrecognizable.

At those times the trail indicators sure do come in handy.

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Much like hiking along the Bruce Trail, don’t we all need indicators of some sort in our lives that help us to see or to tell us……………. “hey you’re headed in the right direction” or “man, the direction you’re heading right now is not good…….time for a change don’t ya think?”

Isn’t it the people in our lives that help us the most?

It might be our spouse; maybe it’s a real close lifelong friend; a brother or sister; maybe our parents who come along and help give us some direction or provide some clarity when we need it.

When we’re out along the Bruce Trail as an example and we see those symbols along the way, we can be pretty sure they’re correct and guiding us in the right direction.

Why?  Because they were placed by people who know that section of the trail intimately.

We all need people who can help us; give direction when needed, or just to encourage us by telling us we’re on the right road. But, those people need to know us; where we are and where we want to go. In other words, they need to know us really well. And I mean REALLY WELL.

My experience over far too many decades is that there are scores of people who want to give us direction; all too eager to try and help us, or stop us and get us pointed in another direction.

Here’s the rub though…………problem is……………I’ve kind of felt they don’t really know what they’re talking about and they certainly don’t have my best interests at heart.

It sounds cyclical, but it’s true.

But, if you have just one or two people who you can really trust; that knows you intimately and you truly know they have YOUR best interests at the forefront….then you’re on the right track.

Finding the right direction at any time whether it be in life or in the wilderness is a rewarding challenge that can involve a considerable amount of trial and error. To stack the odds in your favour, having supportive people around you certainly ups your chances for a positive outcome.

One Tip:

Remember, that talk is cheap.

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Correct Support

Focus and get support from people based on what they do, not on what they say. If they constantly go on about having your best interests at heart but are forever trying to force their opinions or their way of life on you or keep yapping on about why you can’t do what you want to do – really that is not being supportive.

That’s not what you need.

Surround yourself with people or even if it is just one person who will respect who you are, but still be there when you need them.

Just like those directional markers along the Bruce Trail, there are those times we need someone to help give us direction; to let us know we’re on the right path; maybe to help steer us to the better path.

In fact, I think you’d be in a pretty good spot, even if you had only one person.

Yup, we all just at least one person like that in our lives.

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Thanks for reading.

14 thoughts on “Thoughts From the Wilderness – Finding Your Way in Life

  1. This is really great (and timely) advice! I’m at a point where I’m re-evaluating the direction of my life and I’ve been feeling like I need people in my corner to support me and give me some direction.

    “We all need people who can help us; give direction when needed, or just to encourage us by telling us we’re on the right road. But, those people need to know us; where we are and where we want to go. In other words, they need to know us really well. And I mean REALLY WELL.”

    This is a gem. You’re right, there are a lot of people who don’t know us well, or who try to impose their will on us. So I guess the flip side of this is that it’s important to be open and vulnerable enough with people who can accept us as we are. That way, we know who to draw on when the time comes.

    Thanks for this, lots of wise words here!

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    1. I’m so glad that the post reached you at this time. And you make a good point. In order for those people to know us well, we need to be open and vulnerable in order for them to see and support the true us. I know many people do struggle with the open and vulnerable part though.

      I hope that you’ll have even just one person in your corner to give you the support and encouragement you need as you make these decisions and re-evaluation of where life is going to take you.

      Thanks for reading and your insight.

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  2. “Having a support network around you, even it if it just one person who has your back may be all you need to succeed.”
    Love it!

    Yesterday, I exactly told about this problem of mine to my spouse. I started to feel a bit thrown out of life because of the new type of networks that I cannot become a part of. Result: I feel lonely and like not achieving enough 🙂

    Great post. Thanks for supporting a soul that is half a world far away from you 🙂

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